Your time, attention, and energy is best spent on moving forward into the outcomes that you want, rather than pushing against the things you don’t want. To focus and stay focused on what you don’t like, what you don’t want, what’s ‘wrong’ with your right now, is to expend energy perpetuating those very unwanted patterns. Always commit to put your focus on the desired outcome so that you can manage your energy in a way that fuels your fulfillment. The moment you feel tension or contraction, the moment you feel even the slightest bit of internal discomfort in reaction to some situation showing up, ask yourself: ‘what is it that I want or prefer to be experiencing here? What am I wanting here instead?’ and then give the possibility of that desired experience your full attention.